!!! BIG SECRETS IN MARRIAGE !!!

Let's read attentively

                    *secret 1*

Everyone you marry has a weakness. Only God does not have a weakness. So if you focus on your spouse's weakness you can't get the best out of his/her strength.

            *Secret 2*

Everyone has a dark history. No one is an angel. When you get married or you want to get married, stop digging into someone's past. What matters most is the present life of your partner. Old things have passed away. Forgive and forget. Focus on the present and the future.

            *Secret 3*

Every marriage has its own challenges. Marriage is not a bed of roses. Every good marriage has gone through its own test of blazing fire. True love proves in times of challenges.  Fight for your marriage. Make up your mind to stay with your spouse in times of need. Remember the vow: For better for worse. In sickness and in health be there.

              *Secret 4*

Every marriage has different levels of success. Don't compare your marriage with that of any one else. We can never be equal. Some will be far, some behind. To avoid marriage stresses, be patient, work hard and with time your marriage dreams shall come true.

             *Secret 5*

To get married is declaring war. When you get married you must declare war against enemies of marriage. Some enemies of marriage are:

Ignorance 

Prayerlessness

Unforgiveness 

Third party influence 

Stinginess

Stubbornness 

Lack of love 

Rudeness

Laziness 

Disrespect 

Cheating etc. 

Be ready to fight to maintain your marriage zone.

             *Secret 6*

There is no perfect marriage. There is no ready - made marriage. Marriage is hard work. Volunteer yourself to work daily on it. Marriage is like a car that needs proper maintenance and proper service. If this is not done it will break down somewhere exposing the owner to danger, or some unhealthy circumstances. Let us not be careless about our marriages. 

              *Secret 7*

God cannot give you a complete person you desire. He gives you the person in the form of raw materials in order for you to mould the person into what you desire. This can only be achieved through prayer, love and Patience

             *Secret 8*

Getting married is taking a huge risk. You can not predict what will happen in the future.  Situations may change so leave room for adjustments. Husband can lose his good job or you may fail to have babies. All these require you to be prayerful otherwise you might divorce.

            *Secret 9*

Marriage is not a contract. It is  permanent. It needs total commitment. Love is the glue that sticks the couple together. Divorce starts in the mind and the devil feeds the mind. Never ever entertain thoughts of getting a divorce. Never threaten your spouse with divorce. Choose to remain married. God hates divorce.

            *Secret 10*

Every marriage has a price to pay. Marriage is like a bank account. It is the money that you deposit that you withdraw. If you don't deposit love, peace and care into your marriage, you are not a candidate for a blissful home.

So today let us pray for our marriages. Pls Send this link your frienfs and family and to those you care about because  you never know who you may be helping. May God bless you all. Amen.

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Olajuwon. A. Amos

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BENEFITS OF HONEY

12 Benefits of Honey - Advantages & Uses of Honey

Deemed as a top health food across the globe, Honey is a wonderful creation. Honey is among the most popular and widely used sweetener with enormous health benefits. It is used by several cultures around the world serving as a base for many traditional medicines, especially in Ayurveda. The health benefits and advantages of honey have been valued since ages.

• Useful in weight Management
• Strengthens Immune system
• Nourishes your skin and face
• Boosts your memory
• Home Remedy for Cough


• Natural home remedy for Dandruff
• Used for Healing Wounds
• Acts as a Natural Sleeping Aid
• Eases sinus issues


• Helps with gum disease
• Natural Energy Drink
• Prevents and helps control Eczema

Useful in weight Management

Did you know you can use Honey for Weight management? According to the famous author and nutritionist Mike McInnes, honey burns body fat even while when you are sleeping. It is one of the best foods for losing weight. Doctors recommend to have a spoonful of honey before going to bed. You can also consume a little honey with warm water on empty stomach early in the morning. Having it first thing in the morning, helps increase the metabolism, which in turn helps reduce weight faster. Honey is also good for improving your overall health.

Strengthens Immune system

Honey has countless medicinal properties that naturally help in curing a sore throat. Its antioxidants and bacteria-fighting assets also help against fighting infections that are caused by viruses, bacteria and fungi. According to doctors and scientists, buckwheat honey has the highest number of antioxidants and when consumed daily can be beneficial for boosting immunity in the long run and this is why honey has known to be one of the best immunity boosting foods. It is always advisable to consume honey every morning before breakfast or even workout to get an extra kick of energy for the whole day. It also works as a cleansing toner which improves immunity in children.

Nourishes your skin and face

Using Honey for skin is very useful because of its moisturizing and nourishing properties. Honey is the best natural moisturizer, especially for your dry skin and it is also very easy to apply. Raw honey not onlyunclogs pores but it also helps moisturize parched skin. It also helps curing cracked lips during winters. Many people also use honey masks for skin tone correction. Also being a natural antiseptic, it is useful for treatment of wounds, bruises, cuts, burns and other infections. Learn more about how honey can be used as one of the effective home remedies for glowing skin.

Boosts your memory

We are what we eat and hence it is very important to consume foods that help make our mental health strong to sustain in old age. Honey, the eternal sweetener has numerous health benefits, one of which includes boosting memory and concentration. Honey not only increases brain power and memory but also makes you a healthier person altogether. Consumption of honey prevents metabolic stress and helps calm and soothe the brain, which helps in augmenting memory in the long run. The natural antioxidants and therapeutic properties in honey help in boosting brains’ cholinergic system and circulation and receding cells that cause memory loss.

Home Remedy for Cough

Honey is known to be one of the best home remedies for dry cough as well as wet cough. Research has also shown that drinking a tablespoon of honey can reduce irritation in the throat. Honey is the preferred natural remedy for cough, especially for kids, as it helps to relieve nocturnal cough, allowing proper sleep.

Natural home remedy for Dandruff

Do you know how beneficial honey for hair can be? Honey is one of the best natural home remedies for dandruff. It not only provides nourishment to dry hair but it also gives you smooth and soft hair. You can also use honey and lavender with green tea to prevent hair fall. All you need to do is mix 2 tablespoons of Dabur Honey with equal amount of vegetable oil and apply it on your hair. Keep this hair mask on for 15 minutes, and then rinse it off before you shampoo.

Used for Healing Wounds

Honey has antibacterial, antifungal, and antioxidant properties, which is why honey is used for healing wounds. After any skin injury, bacteria that live on your skin can infect and penetrate the wound site. Honey, has been found to destroy these bacteria.

Acts as a Natural Sleeping Aid

Having trouble falling asleep? You should try drinking this beverage made of warm milk and honey just before you sleep. For centuries, people have used this drink to help them sleep. This beverage is fairly easy to make. All you need to do is add a teaspoon of Dabur Honey into a glass of hot milk, or add 1 or 2 teaspoons of Dabur Honey to a cup of chamomile tea and sip to induce sleep.

Eases sinus issues

With increasing pollution and dust many people these days suffer from sinus related issues. Sinuses are small cavities in the skull that produce mucus to guard the respiratory system from allergies and infections. When we suffer from infections the viruses block the sinus, traps the air and mucus which causes distress. Honey on the other hand is a natural anti-bacterium and anti-septic that helps to clear the infections and reduce inflammations. Honey also soothes throat and reduces coughs and strengthens the immune system thereby causing less sinus attacks.

Helps with gum diseases

Honey’s anti-bacterial and infection healing properties help in treating and healing wounds. Teeth and gum diseases like gingivitis, bleeding and plaque can be treated to a great extent with the regular use of honey. Honey is known to release antiseptic hydrogen peroxide which acts as anti-microbial agent that prevents the growth of bacteria. Experts’ advice the use of raw honey mixed with water to be used as mouthwash. Also rubbing honey directly on affected gums gives instant relief from pain and inflammation and other periodontal diseases.

Natural Energy Drink

Honey is known as an excellent source of natural energy as the natural unprocessed sugar present in it enters the bloodstream directly and this in turn can give a quick boost of energy. This quick boost works like a wonder for your workout, especially in longer endurance exercises.

Prevents and helps control Eczema

Eczema is a skin condition that causes red, itchy, flaky skin that causes discomfort. Usually, young children and teenagers suffer from eczema that can be treated with eczema. Those suffering can make a mixture of raw honey and cold-pressed olive oil and apply on the skin to get rid of the problem. Honey acts as a natural cleanser by removing dirt and making the skin smooth and soft. It can also be used for exfoliation of the skin by mixing it with oats in order to remove dead cells. Regular use of honey prevents eczema from occurring or coming back again.

ÀPÀ (SCAR)

Àpá means Scar*

*My name is Oladimeji and I am 32 years old. This is the story of my Àpá. Àpá means scar*

*I finished my NYSC in 2016 and immediately, I got a job with one of the banks in Nigeria and my branch is in Ogba, Lagos State.*

*I was barely 9 months to the banking job and one day, a fair lady passed a cheque leave to me, she has come to withdraw money from her account and a simple complement from my end "you are looking beautiful" created a spark that would later turn me into a mad and paralyzed guy for 2 years and that has been my Àpá.*

*I appreciated her beauty and sincerely speaking, her complexion and beauty will make a guy to look at her more often as long as she is around - and that was what happened! I couldn't concentrate.*

*Though, I didn't make mistake while handling her transaction but the mistake I made cost me more. I lust after her beauty.*

*When I gave her the cheque leave to write her name, address and sign at the back, she returned it with her complimentary card and I promised to call her after working hours.*

*I couldn't wait till the close of the day, I was looking at the time every five minutes. It was as if I was in eternity - the time was just too slow.* 

*My colleagues noticed my uneasy acts and they were just wondering - what's happening to Ola? Someone who won a lottery would not be happy more than me that day. I never knew I was entering into a journey that will take only the mercy and deliverance from God to save me. Still, the Àpá is with me.*

*After working hours, I put a call through to her and we fixed an appointment to meet that weekend.*

*Devil so planned it that it's just #100 from my place to where she was staying at Ogba and by weekend, I was at her place.*

*I can never forget that Saturday evening. She welcomed me with open arms and asked what I would like to take of which I responded "anything". Well, she didn't offered me anything but she did offer me something. She offered me what she called 'Nneka Treat' and that was the beginning of the Àpá.*

*For 30 minutes, I didn't know where I was again. It was after regaining my consciousness that I realized that the BJ in her complementary card meant BlowJob.*

*Her complementary card reads - BJ Services ...for all your pleasures, and her name Nneka, as the Managing Partner. So, what she had just offered me was a BJ and that was the first time I will experience such. That was the birth of my Àpá.*

*Well, I was a Christian but not a serious one then so I will categorise myself as just a church goer because I lost all my church sense that day.* 

*After the BJ experience, we ate and later had sex and the Àpà was stamped. I couldn't even go back to my place until the following day and I am sure if I wasn't going to resume work on Monday, I would still stay another day in her place.*

*When I got home the following day which was Sunday, I started calling her everyday for the next 4 days. The purpose of my calls was just to greet her and to ask for what she wanted and it was the same sentence anytime I call. "Hello Nneka, how are you today? I just want to ask you, what do you want?"*

*On Monday, which was the first working day after the incident, I called her in the morning in a place called "kitchen" at my place of work and I asked what she wanted for the day, she said, "I want you to transfer all the money in your account to me", and my response was just " yes ma". You would have thought I was transferring my 'close to a year' savings from the bank job to save a life at the hospital, that was the speed I used in transferring #256,000 that I have in my account to her. I had to even beg her after doing the transfer that I still have #1,032 left in my account but I couldn't transfer it and she said no problem.*

*The following day, Tuesday, she asked me what other investments do I have, I told her "I have a land bought from cooperative and another land that my late dad gave me." She asked me to sell it that day and transfer the money to her that same day and I had to sell both lands for #65,000 so that I can meet the deadline she gave to me.*

*By Wednesday, I had to sell all the electronics in my apartment and the furniture for #20,000 at Sabo. A guy living in my neighbour organised everything after I left for work, he just gave me the #20,000 as the amount of the goods sold.*

*By Thursday, I didn't have anything to meet up her demand and her response "then that's the end of you" was what I heard last...*

*Until after two years...*

*I heard that I ran mad at the "kitchen" after making a phone call.* *The kitchen is a private area in my place of work where we freshen up before attending to customers and to cool off the stress of the day. I had been calling Nneka from there since Monday after my encounter with her, and I think since I didn't have anything to offer again after my call with her on Thursday, that was why I ran mad and later became paralyzed.*

*I was told that it was the staff who knew the Church that I was attending that took me there and they put a call through to my mother to come down and attend to me. I had filled her name in my file as the next of kin.*

*I was told that it was the stress of my state of madness that cut short the life of my mother because I was not just a mad man, I was a paralyzed mad man.*

*I was told it was my mum that will carry me to the bathroom, to the toilet and she was there to take care of me. The church could only do little.*

*I was told that after one year in that state, my mum died and I was transfered to a prayer mountain with the help of Bimpe.*

*It was on the prayer mountain in Ogun State that I heard people shouting Hallelujah. For a very long time, I didn't know what was happening. All I saw first was that there were mad men chained under tress around and after a while, I saw Bimpe.*

*I could recognize Bimpe after two days of gaining my sanity fully and being able to talk.* 

*Bimpe was one of the marketing staff in the bank where I was before the whole saga and she was my friend there.*

*She told me she had to resign from the job after 1 year the incident happened to me because she heard from God that I am her husband and she said the confirmation was strong. Though, she said it wasn't easy for her but she knows the voice of her Father. Her family too supported her and she was with me after the death of my mum. Together with the support of her family, they were the ones who carried me to the prayer mountain in Ogun State and she had been there with me for a whole year till I receive my miracle.*

*It was a BlowJob of few minutes and one time sex with Nneka that put my life and Bimpe who is now my wife on hold for 2 years.*

*I was called a mad man for 2 years and though I'm healed but the Àpá is still there because now I use crutches.*

*Not many will receive mercy as I had received it from God.*

*Bimpe discussed with me some of my manifestations during the deliverance sessions and she said it was just God's mercy that restored me.*

*Truly, I am a living testimony of what is called Sexually Transmitted Demons as Bimpe said I manifested a whole lot of them before being delivered.*

*Now, I'm still using crutches and I can't go back to the place of work again. I will have to start arranging myself to find a new job but it will take some time.*

*However, I give thanks to God for delivering me from the shackles of Nneka.*

*The question I ask everyday is - How many people who have been trapped by Nneka have such testimony as mine?*

*If only the youths of this generation will learn from my experience and know that the best thing to do is to flee from all appearances of evil, sincerely it will save them from a lot of Àpá.*

*This is the story of my Àpá.*

*Àpà means scar and even though I have been delivered, the Àpá is still there.*

*Nothing has stolen more dreams, dashed more hopes, broken up more families, and messed up more people psychologically than our propensity to disregard God's commands regarding sexual purity.*

*Sexual immorality is a commandment from God.*

*Flee!!!*

*Me: pls read the above and let every youth under you read it too.*

ELEVATE 2021;LET'S GET MOVING

You’re feeling stuck. Last year was a tough year for many.

You know you need to do something. You’re just not sure what to do.

You’d like to make sure next year is not a repeat of this year.

Sound familiar?

I can’t think of a single person who wants this year to be a repeat of last. However, only a handful of people that I know are taking steps to ensure this year is different for them than 2020.

I recently conducted a brief survey here on LinkedIn and asked the following question:

What's your number one wish this year in terms of your career?

Here’s how people responded.

A promotion 27%

A raise         23%

New boss     4%

New job in a different company 45%

I have to admit, I didn’t quite see this coming. I was surprised by the number of people who choose a new job in a different company.

That got me thinking.

Many of you are looking to try something new this year. Maybe you have a clear sense of what this is or you’re still trying to figure it out.

Perhaps you’re not feeling challenged in your current role and there is nowhere to go in your company.

Or maybe you don’t foresee a promotion or pay raise becoming a reality anytime soon. This could be because you don’t know how to ask for a promotion or raise and actually get one.

You may be struggling with how to build relationships up, down, and across the organization when everyone is working remotely.

That’s when it hit me. There are a lot of people seeking to elevate their careers this year. Yet, they may not know where to start. Most could benefit from being surrounded by a group of like-minded people who are 100% committed to obtaining their goals this year. So, here’s what I’m going to do.

I’m going to be putting together a group coaching program for people who are 100% committed to achieving tangible results and elevating their career. This program is NOT for everyone, which is why we need to have a conversation, prior to you joining. You also have to be willing to make an investment, as it’s not free. There are plenty of free resources on my website if that’s all you can afford. I'll be offering early-bird pricing, so don't delay.

Results you can expect:

·     You’ll be prepared for your next promotion

·     You’ll be able to dramatically accelerate your job search

·     To enhance your ability to inspire, influence and motivate those around you

·     Greater Executive Presence

·     Vibrant, productive, strong relationships both up and down the organization

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Talk soon!

MOVING YOUR CAREER FORWARD IN A WORLD. WHERE EVERYTHING FEELS STALLED..

Yesterday, I received an email from a coaching client telling me that she received three job offers last week. She was elated!

Another client reached out to me to tell me she landed an awesome job, with a significant bump in pay and a great job title.

You may be thinking, “What do they have that I don’t have?” 

Here’s the thing. Neither of these people saw this coming when they started their search in late 2020. Yet, they kept the faith.

Things looked very bleak back in December. Companies were still shedding employees, and it looked like we’d be seeing more of the same come 2021.

Both people were working on the plans we created and feeling like they weren’t making much progress.

We had a lot of tough love sort of conversations. Yet, they persevered.

Here’s where their story may differ from yours.

Both clients continued to move their search forward in spite of feeling like they were merely treading water.

And then it happened.

In January, the floodgates opened. People in their network were calling them back. Those resumes they thought they were dumping into the abyss (also known as the applicant tracking system) seemed to have somehow surfaced. They were scoring interviews left and right.

An outsider would see this as luck, but I know better. We’ve had countless conversations around how to move forward when it feels like the rest of the world is on pause and the importance of being consistent, especially when you feel like you want to throw in the towel.

Here’s some advice for those of you who may be feeling stuck.

Keep your foot on the accelerator. Go after what you want, and don’t stop until you get it.

Identify the top 20 companies you’d like to work for and network your way in. Check their websites weekly to see if an opportunity comes up that’s right for you.

Surround yourself with positive people. Years ago, when I was laid off in one of our country’s worst recessions, I found myself wallowing in self-pity. I had no problems staying in this place because the people I surrounded myself with told me that I deserved to be disappointed and angry. I soon realized that their advice was doing more harm than good.

I left these people behind and started my own job search group. I handpicked the people that I wanted around me. We met weekly and shared job leads. We also shared words of encouragement that kept us afloat during some very dark times. We were fortunate to have someone in our group who was a black belt in the art of job search. Eventually, our group disbanded, as one by one, we secured employment. However, our friendship is still intact.

Get rid of the naysayers in your life and find a group (or start your own) of people who are on the positive road to a new beginning.

Get some professional advice. If you’ve been doing the same thing over and over, and it’s not working, then consider the possibility that you need a new plan.

If money is in short supply, consider reaching out to your college alumni association to see what resources are available for alum. If you’d prefer a more customized approach, ask people in your network, who they might recommend, to assist you in your endeavor to find a job search coach.

As the vaccine continues to roll out across the country, I predict we’ll see a surge in the number of open positions. The time to ready yourself for this next wave is NOW.

I'm excited about the future. How about you?

Thanks for reading.... 

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